Monday, January 9, 2017

Recovering Back Home

Sabine is all set now in her mom's house in the upstairs bedroom (the dialysis equipment has also been moved there.) She still is experiencing a lot of pain in movement. We did dialysis yesterday afternoon and all went well in the new location (after all, we've dialyzed on a boat, train, and mile-high lodge in Glacier!).

She is scheduled for OT and PT today and we are hoping we can get her moving with less pain given we have a chemo infusion on Wednesday and Thursday at the hospital in Madison.

Brother Rainer is here (I picked him up at the Rockford Airport after church) and helping out with Charlotte and his sister. Josh, Rachel and little Alex came out yesterday as well. Nearby friends Jeff and Bonnie brought food last night.

So... one step (literally) at a time.

And, yes, above all things -- it could have been worse!

Stay tuned.
Wedding Day -- December 29, 1981, outside Brookings, So. Dak.
on the way back to Northfields.

Saturday, January 7, 2017

Semester Break!

I simply could not refrain from joking about Sabine falling and fracturing her hip during my "semester break!" Ho-ho, funny guy.

We were discharged from UW-Hospital after a 4-day stay yesterday afternoon. (While we were at the hospital we did dialysis two times in the hospital clinic where I was permitted to cannulate her needles and take her off the machine -- much thanks to the supportive professionals there.)

Sabine also received her weekly chemo infusion in her room after much discussion and delays.

Nevertheless, here is an update -- we are back home and I have positioned Sabine in her mom's house (where we dialyze) for mobility purposes. Our home has lots of steps from the driveway to our front door.

Now the program is about mobility and accessibility. She will mainly be in her mom's house except for two major transfers next week to the chemo clinic on Wednesday and Thursday. That will be a major undertaking as Sabine continues to experience "level 8" pain whenever she moves. Mr. Oxycotine is available and she has been advised to keep him in her system to mask the pain that will be part of her healing journey -- she is to MOVE as much as possible with weight on her pelvis. Hmmm - but that's what the professionals have prescribed.

While this is a set-back, I continue to reframe it as a blessing. She did not have to have surgery, she did not hit her head when she fell and could have gotten a brain bleed, and she did not fracture her "golden arm" (the one with the fistula for her dialysis).

Home health in nearby Dodgeville has already scheduled her for occupational and physical therapy on Monday and I am going to pick up her brother, Rainer, from the airport on Sunday. Rainer offered to come and help out as a member of the dual-care team: Sabine and her mother, Charlotte.

As many of you know, Charlotte, age 92, is experiencing a growing memory loss due to dementia. She doesn't know what happened, cannot remember the ambulance coming to the farm on Tuesday, nor any other events that have happened over 5 minutes ago.

However, her health is good and she maintains a positive attitude and is always ready to help when asked. But she can no longer live independently and depends on us for daily care.

I want to thank all of you who have offered to help out and brought meals for us. Your love and care is greatly appreciated. I promise that if we need help, we will ask. For example, friend Jeff, who lives nearby, helped out the other night when I stayed with Sabine at the hospital with feeding the donkeys (who greatly miss their daily interaction with Charlotte.

Peace. Healing. And a blessed New Year for all of us!

Wednesday, January 4, 2017

Oh No! Not Again!

Bad weather. Rain and ice. Dangerous walking. We were at the UW Hospital earlier to today for a fistulagram and headed home around 3:00 p.m. We parked under the shelter and Sabine took some groceries into the house.

I said I was going to chore the donkeys and she was to drive the car down to the farmhouse because of the icy driveway conditions.

For some reason (the drugs she received for the fistulagram?) she decided to walk down the driveway when I heard her scream...


9-1-1 time and I think the 3rd time the Barneveld ambulance team made a visit to New Journey Farm.

Sabine was conveyed to the ER at UW Hospital and that's where we are right now.

Preliminary diagnosis was a hip fracture, but now they want to take more X-rays and possible a CT scan to see what's going on. She is now on a dilaudid drip and more exams coming.

Looks like she will be admitted and we will have to coordinate dialysis at the hospital in the morning and her chemo regimen in the afternoon.

Buddy and Helene are at the farm but it looks like we will have to have some help with her when Helene leaves for Stevens Point.

This is a big setback.

I know you are all concerned and I will keep you updated on this blogsite.

Keep us all in prayer.

Monday, December 19, 2016

Christmas Newsletter -- 2016

Ed. Note: Hard to believe, yet wonderful to experience, we are entering our ninth year of managing/controlling/wrestling with CANCER. A good way to let those who are following this blog know what's been going on with Sabine and her gang is for me to post our annual Christmas newsletter.


 Christmas News - 2016! 
From New Journey Farm in Beautiful Blue Mounds 

By David Couper & Sabine Lobitz 

Sabine relaxing with her morning
coffee on the Mississippi with
trusty companions Mocha
and David.
A Merry Christmas and a very Happy New Year to come to all our friends and family. This was one of those years which brought with it both hard and amazing times. The hard times began with the establishment of a “new normal” as Sabine’s cancer showed some progression. Having been literally spoiled for years of stability and oral chemotherapies, Sabine found it difficult to participate in many of her usual activities like cycling, kayaking and disc golf to name a few.

Veteran's For Police Memorial
 Day Reflection 
Alexander, parents, godparents
and priest.
Through this adjustment back to IV infusion chemo two times a week at the hospital, David was still able to teach for the second year at UW-Platteville, preach at St. Peter’s, helped organize a regional policing conference, and, through his popular blog, to help coach and lead police improvement with regard to recent officer-involved shootings, and the resultant diminishing support and trust for police among people of color.

Cap'n Dave and his crew: Sabine,
Heather H., Gracie, and Heather R.
at the Dubuque Boat Parade.
Still they were able to make it out to the American Players Theater in nearby Spring Green for a great summer season as well as attend performances in Platteville and Dubuque. Most of their “off-time” (read: home dialysis, support groups, chemotherapies, lab and doctor visits) was spent on the good ship Kokomo at the Port of Dubuque. 

Their church gave them some great volunteer opportunities and many blessings. They had visits from granddaughter Gracie and her mom who live in San Diego, and also a summer visit from granddaughter Heather from Michigan. They joined together for the annual Dubuque boat parade. They also had a visit from daughter Yumi and her longtime friend Jessica which was followed by Sabine’s cousin, Helmut, from Montana who had recently lost his wife. Cousin Helene has been down from Stevens Point nearly every month to visit Sabine’s mom, Charlotte, and to help out. (We hear it’s been a big treat!). 

Old Dogs at University High School's
60th Reunion.
Other visitors we’ve seen come and go are Sabine’s brother, Rainer, her sister, Barbara, and cousin Teak and her gang along with daughter Sumi, Scott and Taylor. 

We also overheard (our ears are super-sensitive) that David was able to attend his high school’s 60th reunion in the Twin Cities. He stayed in a wonderful refurbished inn on Nicollet Island, in a building he once took homeless people to when he was a cop in Minneapolis. 

Alexander Wolf Ransom-Couper
August 12, 2016
But there is bigger news ahead: another grandchild, Alexander Wolf Ransom-Couper, came into the world by way of son Joshua and Rachel. (Just in the nick of time as they needed to have a Holy Family for Christmas Eve at St. Peter’s.) He is an amazing youngster! Then (as if all this news was not enough for our little ears), daughter Yumi (still an officer in the Army) and Matt are expecting! More yet: and granddaughter Hannah is getting married just before Christmas in Minnesota. Just when you think things are dull and routine, this family kicks in with new adventures and new members! 

At the Dubuque Art Museum
From our earthy prospective, no matter how difficult some aspects of life may seem, the wonder of it all is enough to take your breath away. Open up and breathe! And on behalf of those who live above us and their friends and family, follow the Star, do good, be alert, press on, and work for justice. 

A very Merry Christmas and Happy New Year from those of us under and above ground

The New Journey Farm Moles 

A note: “Although your ravaged lawn makes it look as though a whole family of moles has moved in, it only takes a single mole to create tunnels and mounds over a wide area; Moles are demolition masters. Surface tunnels are what you see when you are fighting moles, but in reality they are a small slice of the architecture of a mole’s home. Often, the tunnels are dotted with huge mounds of dirt in order to make a nice tunnel.” 

Friday, October 21, 2016

Still Struggling to Normalize

Yesterday, Sabine went in for her second chemo infusion this week (carfilzomib) and with platelets and some other blood chemistry tests being low, she had to receive 2 units of whole blood. After the chemo infusion, we left the clinic at around 7:30 p.m. Whew!

But a stop at our favorite local Chinese restaurant (Imperial Gardens) perked her up. Juggling 5 hemodialysis sessions a week with two runs to the clinic at UW Hospital for IV infusions sort of fills the week up along with the normal fall chores of getting ready for winter on the farm, and her mother's failing memory -- it's challenge.

Although she is pretty tired (8.0 hemoglobin), she continues to have a positive attitude with daily exercise and coveted naps in the afternoon.

We still have our boat in the water (we try to be the last one out in early November)
and we are looking forward to enjoying some overnights on the Mississippi.

In January, we begin our 9th year managing this thing called "cancer."


A Poem on a Walk

for 8 years now
we've pursued
while blood-washing
chemicals become
your/our life
mutations and permutations have
been partners
in our life
but they do not
as we continue
our morning walks 
(after coffee,
of course)
up the hill 
i see a
some kind of 
an illusion?
private and primitive 
it hangs around
my arm passes
go somewhere
get out of
find another
another what?
another victim?
yes, i say


Monday, October 10, 2016

October and Recovering Platelets

I think we've got the new chemo and the "new normal" established enroute toward some stabilization. Sabine''s playlets have stopped plunging enabling the new chemo to kick in and get back on schedule. She has been pretty tired. We still get out for a daily walk.  There is some face-swelling that we cannot account for. But no neck pain and dialysis is going well.

The end of the boat season is quickly approaching yet October is one of our favorite times on the river.

Much of which to be thankful as we approach year nine.

Monday, September 19, 2016


At UW Hospital today for a "root-router" of her veins to eliminate arm and face swelling. We have to do this no less than every three months. Due to Sabine's low platelet count she had to have a platelet transfusion prior to her surgery today. Dr Chan checked in and told me the procedure went well and "see you all in three months." All this still is worrisome because the swelling makes it difficult to put in the fistula needles. We'll see tomorrow how it goes and how the swelling has gone down.